Living Your Best Life, is a sentiment I hear a lot, on the surface it feels like a positive mantra to live by, it portrays an inspirational lifestyle which encourages everyone to be having 100% of a good time 100% of the time. Not one minute is wasted on anything banal, and every day is an achievement in winning at life.
Those are great intentions, but I think the reality is a little less wholesome. ‘Living your best life’ can feel like FOMO with a vengeance. If you’re not constantly having a GREAT TIME it can become a bit of pressure cooker for our physical and mental well-being.
We have to take the good with the bad, but my concern with ‘Living your Best life’ is that it doesn’t really allow for any bad bits, or even any mundane but necessary bits like food shopping or cleaning, or having a lazy day which can result in;
Torturing ourselves because every minute isn’t marvellous, and then becoming so paranoid that we can’t see the good bits when they’re right in front of us because we’re obsessed with making sure there are no bad bits ahead.
Or the alternative we choose to just not acknowledge the bad bits, because they would be detrimental to have a GREAT TIME, and by not allowing ourselves a little cry or a lazy day, are we then allowing all these little bad bits to build up into a black hole of crap that will inevitably suck us in and be a nightmare to get out of?
I read an interview with Sam Smith, and he said, “It’s great to celebrate, but you can’t celebrate all the time”.
When I was a kid, I said I wanted to eat McDonalds every day and the response I got was:
“No, if you had it every day you wouldn’t appreciate it”.
At seven years old I found that hard to understand, but I get it now.
I think we should take the pressure off and focus instead on ‘Living Your Real Life’, and embracing every bit of it, the good the bad and the boring. Having porridge so that we can appreciate the Big Mac.